A very dear friend sent me an email today which inspired me to write this post.
The writing within the email is REALLY REAL ~ writing regarding relationship. It’s spun beautifully from the wabi sabi philosophy. The writing is published by “The Soulmate Secret” by Arielle Ford…the text is in italics, at the very bottom of this post .
Here’s a link for a book about wabi sabi and love -> http://thewabisabibook.com
What is Wabi Sabi? A Definition:
“The ancient Japanese art form of Wabi Sabi honors all things old, weathered, worn and impermanent by perceiving the beauty in imperfections. It discovers grace in things modest, humble and unconventional.
Wabi Sabi love is the art and practice of appreciating the quirks and imperfections in our self and our partner. Listening with our heart, we come to see with it, too. Discerning the hidden dance between partners brings emotional maturity to our relationships as we shift our focus from what’s wrong to what’s right. This new, true view deeply bonds us and is a key to everlasting love—and any harmonious relationship.” —http://www.naturalawakeningsmag.com/Natural-Awakenings/February-2012/Wabi-Sabi-Love/
And here’s wabi sabi style, manifested in dwellings for living … Very Organic and simple.
If you’re not coupled in this time….That’s cool!
Again, if deep down– you’d like to have a romantic, life partner — please, please, join with me in putting the kabash on that terrible rumour or thought paradigm which you may hear from time to time: (Is it some kind of compliment, with an interwoven insult?!) It goes something this, usually: “You’re so spiritual, starborn, cosmic, artistic, ‘different’ & far out groovy– that…I guess there’s no one on Earth quite like you– for you ….to partner with. You’ll die an ol’ spinster with a bunch of cats crawling in your yarn and fabric. Poor you.” FRACK THAT.
Unless that’s what ye want. If not, the next time you hear this from someone, invite the person who is saying such a thing to the fact that: “I Live WabiSabi, either by myself and with someone else. I’m sorted, and also unsorted. I’m quirky and unconventional and loveable. But thanks. Nay, nay-nay on trying to re-bin me. Also, keep your odd compliments which seem also like insults about me to your personal journal entries.”
Here we go….
Help yourself to a bit of what is all…. yummy ….sensuous ….Life-Giving….around you. You are never alone.
I know I’m having fun, while being single– getting together with friends (who, if you’re like me, your friends are sprinkled all over the land). So I go here and there and everywhere and friends come to my lil hut in the woods, too. Also, I’m Skyping w/ dear friends who happen to be far, far away. And, hey, I’m enjoying quiet solitude, as well– walking in nature, catching up on my hobbies, finding new kitschy hobbies, enjoying writing, finding new arts, creating new art, researching and learning, spending time with blood family, & mostly relishing the enjoyment of not being rushed or squeezing into an overly tight schedule. (Now, I know that a relationship doesn’t have to cause a tightening to one’s schedule such to keep you from the things I’ve listed above, but hey, let’s be real– You do wanna create time for your partner, so you paint ’em into the picture. Things do shift around and thus, manifests a desire to re-balance to honour your beloved and yourself.)
I welcome in re-balancing adventures if this is of the Highest and Best good, in this time, to invite in New Love Adventures!!
Love, Love, Love… my people, You know!!!! 😀
~Most of the cats that you meet on the street speak of true love
Most of the time they’re sittin’ and cryin’ at home
One of these days they know they better be goin’
Out of the door and down on the street all alone~
Here is Arielle Ford’s writing which I spoke of at the opening of this posting:
Dear Soulmate Manifestors,
Single men and women, who have read my book The Soulmate Secret, and are actively seeking to manifest the love of their life, often ask me if I can share with them the secret to speeding up the process. They tell me they are tired of waiting, wishing, hoping and yearning for the day the One will arrive. While I know and believe that you can consciously manifest the love of your life. (I’ve done it as have thousands of my students around the world) you don’t get to choose the speed at which it all comes together.
I believe that “savoring the waiting” is an important part of the process….this is where you get to really enjoy your last days of being single, a time where you can relish the journey and joyfully anticipate your soulmates arrival. You can choose to allow yourself to feel desperate and alone or you can choose to feel happy and blessed.
One way to adopt the “happy and blessed” mindset is to understand the ancient Japanese aesthetic known as wabi sabi which honors all things old, worn, weathered, imperfect, and impermanent. In fact, it seeks to find “beauty and perfection in the imperfections.” You can now choose to adopt a wabi sabi perspective to your final days as a “single”rather than choosing to succumb to weeks or months of simply “enduring” the wait. Think of it this way: when the seeds of a flower have been planted in the ground and the first leaves begin to sprout, the gardener does not tug on the leaves every day to make the plant grow fast. He trusts that Mother Nature will play her role and then when the time is right, the flower will blossom.
Like a gardener, you have planted a seed and invited love to unfold in your life. Another benefit to practicing wabi sabi is that it will become infinitely beneficial once you are with your beloved. I call this the practice of Wabi Sabi Love. Why would you take the time to learn how to apply Wabi Sabi Love to your relationship? Because 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second marriages and 74% of third marriages all end in divorce! We aren’t born with the innate knowledge of how to “do” relationship. Even worse, we’ve been brainwashed by modern day society to look for and seek perfection, which leads to an ongoing state of frustration and dissatisfaction.
In truth, we all know that perfection is not possible. But with Wabi Sabi Love we can come to appreciate our own and the other’s imperfection, and can actually experience a more natural state of grace than we thought possible. By learning and practicing Wabi Sabi Love you begin to accept the flaws, imperfections, and limitations – as well as the gifts and blessings – that form your shared history as a couple. Acceptance and its counterpart, understanding, are crucial to achieving relationship harmony. It’s is sacred love, the highest form of love, and like most things worth striving for in life requires patience, commitment, personal responsibility, and practice.
Imagine how great you will feel when you know your partner accepts all of you, all the time? The good, the bad, and everything in between! My soulmate of fourteen years, Brian, and I credit the success of our relationship to applying Wabi Sabi Love to everyday life…
Sun~Love UBER release into the cosmos and all around ye! ❤ The MoonShaman Love Intrepid